Self-Care is not selfish

When we notice that our car doesn't run smoothly anymore, we get it tuned up. When the alignment is off, we get the wheels rebalanced. The same can be true for ourselves. Olga Phoenix's Self-Care Wheel shows six different spokes of wellness: personal, professional, physical, psychological, emotional and spiritual. In which are might you need a little recalibration? 
Let's assess the situation. In terms of your physical self-care, how frequently do you eat regular, healthy, mindful meals? Do you spend quality time in nature at least once a week? Do you take time off when you need it? Are you up-to-date with your preventative health care? Do you get enough sleep? How about your time spent on the phone? When was the last time you danced - even around kitchen table?
Getting enough "me" time to attend to my own needs is something I have to make time for ... as they say, "You can't pour from an empty cup!" From my own experience, I feel so much better on the days I practice what I preach. When I got in even one of my favorite things - cycling, yoga, Pilates on my Reformer or taking my dog out for a walk in the woods - I am so much more able to gracefully navigate the ups and downs of life. 
For my psychological wellbeing, I have to go to museums, listen to classical music, read inspiring books and practice meditation - preferably outside in the sun. I love the smell of essential oils that lift me up. Think about what activities - perhaps journaling - make you feel better? Happiness is a choice we get to make daily. Did you know that smiling uninterrupted for 60 seconds releases dopamine? Start your morning like that and super-charge your mood.
Since it is in our own power to hack our emotions, how about looking in the mirror and telling yourself, "You are gorgeous!" Every morning another chance to create new habits.
Practicing more self-care is an act of self-love. How can we extend love to others if we don't experience enough for ourselves? So be kind and gentle with yourself, show compassion and forgiveness, set healthy boundaries and say, "I love you!" often.